One short email a week.
Two or three minutes to read. It keeps coming until you leave.
What arrives.
One idea per email, in the order they build on each other. It carries on past the ones listed here, because there is always another week.
- The first ten seconds: the fear starts before anyone has looked.
- Nobody is counting: what the research says about how much people notice.
- What you are actually afraid of: being seen, and how little of it is about the colour.
- Where your attention goes: the idea the whole approach rests on.
- A small one: the first step, chosen by you.
- The days you skip: why consistency beats intensity.
- What the guide is and is not.
What does not happen.
- Nothing in the subject line ever says what these emails are about, and the sender name is neutral. That is the whole reason it is written that way.
- Every email has a leave link. One click, no page asking you to reconsider.
- Your address is used for these emails and nothing else. It is not sold, rented or handed to anyone.
Here is the first one, in full.
Read it before you decide. These emails are the method itself, not a sample of it, so there is no reason to keep the first one behind an address.
Subject
The first ten seconds
Here is the part that gets described wrong.
You are in a room. Someone is going to ask you something, or read out a name, or turn round. Nothing has happened yet. And you already know.
That is the first ten seconds. Your body starts arranging itself for an event that has not occurred. By the time the blush arrives it is late to the scene. The fear got there first, alone, while the room was still talking about something else.
This matters because of what it changes. If the problem is the colour, then the only move you have is to stop the colour, and you cannot, and every failed attempt teaches you that you are broken. If the problem is those ten seconds, you have somewhere to stand.
That is what these emails are about. Not the face. The ten seconds.
One thing to notice this week, and nothing else. When it happens, see whether it started before or after you had a reason. Do not fix anything. Just find out.
Next week: how much the room actually sees, and the study that measured it.
Leave these emails. One click, no questions, nothing kept.
If this is taking pieces out of your life, a doctor or a psychologist is the right next step, and asking for one is a normal thing to do. This site is not a substitute for that.